“Hop Against Homophobia & Transphobia” – Thoughts, experiences and an Interview with a Throuple

21 May

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A few days back an Interview crossed my way. A friend of mine actually made me aware of HOP and then I got word from this interview. It’s a two-piece interview from the Blog “Chaos in the moonlight” and K-Lee Klein with CockyBoys owner Jake Jaxson, Benny MoreCock and RJ Sebastian.

All three do not only work together, no, they also live in a loving relationship together.

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The interview literally made me cry, it made me laugh and it inspired me – all on the very same time.

In my job (I’m in school to become a elderly care nurse) I’m confronted with Homophobia quiet a lot. By now we already have had gay co-workers or even gay citizens and I’ve always been thinking that today that shouldn’t be a problem anymore. But for a generation that has been raised under totally different circumstances and other standards it’s not easy to adjust and accept what seems so easy for myself.

So I found myself swallowing and numb in shock when a elderly woman says to me, “No, I don’t want this faggot to touch me” or, “If he’s gonna come to care for me – I’ll scream as loud as I can.”  In the first moment, my first reaction was being shocked and appalled but then I took a moment to think and I realized that this generation is so different from my own.

I’ve been raised in a very tolerant environment, even though my dad is very homophobic, or I rather searched myself such a environment. And for me there’s nothing worse than to see people getting bullied because of what they like, whom they love or whatever. For me love is love. Who cares if a guy loves a guy, or a woman loves a woman? Love is Love and we all have a right to love and to be loved.

In my opinion people who act all so mature and spit out homophobic hate are just scared. Scared of things they don’t know anything about. They’re scared of cliches and pre-justice. And this fear doesn’t even give them the chance to look further into the topic and actually learn something about the topic. They just prefer to sit in their little world not a bit open and willing to maybe see something different or even give other’s a chance to show them that, even though their way to live, their way to love might be different, it’s nothing bad or disgusting or deadly at all. It’s just different from what they think is “normal”. But to be open means to look over the border of your own plate and actually step out into the world and get to know something new. Sadly there are still so many people who are not ready for this.

Yet again it’s 2013 and SO MANY great things are happening these days. Gay’s are gaining more and more rights. Gay marriages get legalized. It’s a great time and if we keep up the fight, keep standing up for what we believe in, I’m sure, many more great things are going to happen. The world has changed. And even though I have to accept the opinions of the elderly’s at my workplace, I yet find myself trying to explain to them that it doesn’t matter who loves who. It’s not always about sex (sure it’s a great deal) but it’s not everything. And I’m surely not getting them to love “gay lifestyle”, but maybe I can get them to over think things? Sometimes it works, sometimes it does not. But that’s okay!

So long story short, KEEP fighting. KEEP standing up for WHO you love, keep voicing your opinion. Don’t back down if something doesn’t go the way we might like it. There’s always a next chance. There’s always a new tomorrow. Don’t lose hope. This a good time, a great time to change things.

Please, take a few minutes and actually read this interview from Jake, Benny and RJ! Those three men are probably the most inspiring and amazing men I ever got to know. So humble, so talented and so loving, not only to each other but also to their fans, their fan-base and their models. They’re like the living-prove that love does exist and come in a lot of shapes. In the case of those three it comes in a throuple. Something I have never really got to know before and here I am – blown away and so amazed by their love for each other, the support and acceptance.

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A huge thank you to those three for making my world a little brighter, for all the inspirations and strength I have gained trough you – even if you are not aware of it.

And thank you for sharing a piece of it trough this interview. To show a piece of yourself and maybe inspire other’s to do the same and encourage them for their own lives and the future. Just… thank you!

Also a huge “Thank you” to K-lee Klein for doing this interview and for standing up for the cause! Thank you!

I’m gonna shut up now – just read the interview, take these few moments. Read it and share it and join this amazing cause. Help changing the world towards a brighter future, a future where we all have the same rights no matter who we love, who we are and who we support!

Thank you!

Interview Part 1 –  ”CockyBoys are in the House”

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Interview Part 2 

Hey Hey, My My…

19 May

“There’s more the picture than meets the eye

Hey Hey, My My

Out of the blue and into the black

You pay for this and they give you that

Once you’re gone, you can’t come back!”

Today has been a tough day. Mixed with positive and negative emotions. Anger, frustration, love, happiness and gratefulness.  I really hate such days, at least in the first moment I do. Looking back to it – now everything slowly starts to calm down and clear up.

I’ve been dreading a certain decision from quiet a while by now. A desicion that will change a lot of things in my life. I’m a very emotional person. Emotional in good and bad ways. Being a scorpio I can be very forthcoming and direct but I’m also very loyal and if I love someone once… I’m gonna love them forever. The love might change over the years and depending on what happens but it’ll always stay! Not one person I ever loved or called my friend in the past means “nothing” to me now – even if we don’t have any contact anymore. Every person that steps into my life and get’s to come into my circle of friends will forever mean something to me. The desicion I have to make concerns such a person.

In the past weeks I’ve come to the border’s of my own sanity. I’ve cried, I’ve screamed, I’ve tried to hate. I broke down, I wailed, I even prayed and begged but nothing seemed to help. Being myself and believing that everything we experience is meant to be – I’ve sat back and let everything go trough my mind again. Until now I refused to even think about this last option I have – to end a friendship that means the world to me, or at least put it to rest and accept that things have changed. I refused to even end this thought until now because it scared me and it still does.

As I sit here and thought about everything that that had happened, talked to friends I remembered a pretty great advice I’ve read a while ago.

“Forgive but don’t forget. Be grateful. You are who you hang out with. Remember who you are.”

- Max Ryder

This is not the whole thing but it’s – what’s important. After trying everything I could even come up with to solve this problem I have, to fix a friendship that’s been bombarded with disappointment, empty promises and miss trust. But you can’t fix a friendship on your own and without help from the other side. I’ve tried everything but if the other party is not willing to see what’s going on or solve problems – there’s just no way to go.

I am not a saint, oh hell, I am not. But I tried, I tried everything I could. I even tried things friend’s suggested me to do. Nothing helped.

So here I am today, thinking about what to do and what not to do. Torn between love and longing towards something that’s in the past and, maybe, never come back, and moving forward. Moving on and bringing happiness and positivity back into my life. Bring love back!

Love is probably the factor that has kept me back so long, and it’s still the fact that let’s me doubt my decicion but than again. Unanswered love is never a good thing anyways.

I am grateful for this friendship. I am grateful for every second we shared, every word we spoke, every joke we made. I am grateful for everything – even the fights we had. I am grateful for you and I love you very much. But I have to safe myself. This is not me – this is not who I am.

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A huge “thank you” to everyone who’s been in this with me, supported me and helped me to get trough and inspired me! Thank you!

Happy Birthday, Eva!

15 May

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Eva!

 

To me you’re like a sister from another mother and today is your birthday! I wanna wish you all the best, health, happiness and success in your future life. May all your hopes, dreams and wishes come true and may you be blessed with all the good in the world.

 

Thank you for everything! Today’s your day, so let’s celebrate!

 

I love you very much!

Kerrang! Linkin Park July 20 2002 Scribe

9 May

Kerrang! Linkin Park July 20 2002 Scribe.

My LOVE – she keeps me warm!

7 May

This is one of the best music video’s I’ve seen in a long, long while. And I really want you to sit back, watch this and then think about what “true love” means for you.

For me it means to LOVE someone with everything I have, no matter which gender! Love doesn’t judge! We do! Think about it!

“Same Love”

When I was in the third grade I thought that I was gay

‘Cause I could draw, my uncle was, and I kept my room straight
I told my mom tears rushing down my face
She’s like “Ben you’ve loved girls since before pre-k tripping, “
Yeah, I guess she had a point, didn’t she?
Bunch of stereotypes all in my head.
I remember doing the math like, “Yeah, I’m good at little league”
A preconceived idea of what it all meant
For those that liked the same sex
Had the characteristics
The right wing conservatives think it’s a decision
And you can be cured with some treatment and religion
Man-made rewiring of a predisposition
Playing God, aw nah here we go
America the brave still fears what we don’t know
And God loves all his children, is somehow forgotten
But we paraphrase a book written thirty-five-hundred years ago
I don’t know

And I can’t change
Even if I tried
Even if I wanted to
I can’t change
Even if I try
Even if I wanted to
My love
My love
My love
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm

If I was gay, I would think hip-hop hates me
Have you read the YouTube comments lately?
“Man, that’s gay” gets dropped on the daily
We become so numb to what we’re saying
A culture founded from oppression
Yet we don’t have acceptance for ‘em
Call each other faggots behind the keys of a message board
A word rooted in hate, yet our genre still ignores it
Gay is synonymous with the lesser
It’s the same hate that’s caused wars from religion
Gender to skin color, the complexion of your pigment
The same fight that led people to walk outs and sit ins
It’s human rights for everybody, there is no difference!
Live on and be yourself
When I was at church they taught me something else
If you preach hate at the service those words aren’t anointed
That holy water that you soak in has been poisoned
When everyone else is more comfortable remaining voiceless
Rather than fighting for humans that have had their rights stolen
I might not be the same, but that’s not important
No freedom till we’re equal, damn right I support it

(I don’t know)

And I can’t change
Even if I tried
Even if I wanted to
My love
My love
My love
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm

We press play, don’t press pause
Progress, march on
With the veil over our eyes
We turn our back on the cause
Till the day that my uncles can be united by law
When kids are walking ’round the hallway plagued by pain in their heart
A world so hateful some would rather die than be who they are
And a certificate on paper isn’t gonna solve it all
But it’s a damn good place to start
No law is gonna change us
We have to change us
Whatever God you believe in
We come from the same one
Strip away the fear
Underneath it’s all the same love
About time that we raised up

And I can’t change
Even if I tried
Even if I wanted to
I can’t change
Even if I try
Even if I wanted to
My love
My love
My love
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm
Love is patient
Love is kind
Love is patient
Love is kind
(I’m not crying on Sundays)
Love is patient
(I’m not crying on Sundays)
Love is kind
(I’m not crying on Sundays)
Love is patient
(I’m not crying on Sundays)
Love is kind
(I’m not crying on Sundays)
Love is patient
(I’m not crying on Sundays)
Love is kind
(I’m not crying on Sundays)
Love is patient
Love is kind

Happy Birthday, Becky!

4 May

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Happy Birthday, Becky!

Today and your day and I wanna wish you all the best, blessings, luck, love, health and happiness the world has in store for you! May god continue to bless your life and family and friends!

Wish I could bake you a real cupcake but sadly that isn’t possible. So I hope you like that one nonetheless!

Have a super great day! I love you very much! *super big tiger hugs*

Hot Docs: Blackfish - Gabriela Cowperthwaite

1 May

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I had a couple of concerns going into my screening of Blackfish last night.  Part of me was really looking forward to seeing it, but another part of me was a little worried.  Would I be confronted with graphic images of a veteran trainer being suddenly killed by the orca whale she'd been working with for years?  That was the event that set the documentary in motion, so I was worried I'd have to see it happen in order for the film's message to sink in for every viewer possible. 

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